I suffered from binge eating and bulimia for nearly 30 years. I’m qualified to talk to you about overcoming eating disorders because I’ve been free from any eating disorder for 10 years and counting now.
Living with an eating disorder is not living, it’s surviving. You are worth more than just surviving.
Binge eating is when you eat a lot of food in a small amount of time (much more than most people would in that same span of time) and you feel out of control when you’re doing it. Bulimia is when you eat (and especially binge) then purge what you’ve eaten either through laxatives, exercise, or vomiting. (NEDA)
1. Acknowledge that having an eating disorder is a choice
You are responsible for your own choices, I say kindly. You are not stuck and you are not powerless. You get to choose. And while, I know it might not feel like it at the time when you desperately want the eating disorder to make things better, I assure you, there’s a choice to be made even if it’s just a split second. And in that moment, when you want to choose the eating disorder to make everything better, you need to choose yourself instead.
2. Choose to befriend yourself
Self-compassion is what you most need to heal. That means being the kind of best friend to yourself that you’ve always wanted. You are with you 24/7. You are already the closest and best friend you’ll ever have. Now, you just have to treat yourself that way, sit with whatever you’re feeling and/or trying to avoid by abusing food, and decide that you’re important enough to do whatever it takes to heal yourself.
3. Change what you believe
You always (always, always) live out what you believe. So you need to believe:
- it’s okay for you to be a healthy weight.
- you are so much more than a number on a scale.
- food is just fuel so you can thrive.
Thing is, I could say those things to you for the entire length of this post. I could write an entire book filled with them, but they won’t become truth to you unless you’re the one who believes them. And if they aren’t truth to you, you won’t live them out in your life. So choose to believe them because you need to save your own life.
4. Reach out and tell someone you trust that you have an eating disorder
I got trapped in a cycle because I wouldn’t talk about it and so I couldn’t get any help. I know you probably feel shame and humiliation and like there’s something wrong with you. Hear me on this: There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re just trapped in a cycle and you need help to get out, and that’s okay because all of us at some point or another has been trapped in a cycle. So you’re not alone in that either.
You don’t have to suffer in silence. You just don’t. So you reach out and ask for help today. And if you don’t have anyone you trust, please feel free to contact me.
My weight-loss journey & how it can help you on yours
I got free. Your life can be that way too.
I made my own path because I needed to get myself out of the crazy-making behavior I was having around food. I needed no restrictions, no weighing and measuring food, no off-limit foods, no more judgment around food, no more judging my self-worth based on the scale, no more you’re-not-doing-it-perfectly diet rules that were only fueling my constant thinking about and obsession with food. I needed to modify and change any weight-loss technique I found useful to suit my own personal needs.
- I lost 160+ pounds naturally & have kept it off for 8 years and counting.
- I no longer have any eating disorders.
- I no longer have a fear of food.
Just imagine what you could be doing with your life, following your own dreams and reaching your own goals, cultivating your own passions, making both your inner and outer worlds a more blissful and peaceful place, if you weren’t running in circles on the diet-go-round.
I got that for my life. I want it for yours. My books will show you how.
Let 2020 be the year you make peace with your body and with food.
For more information, check out the Start Where You Are Weight Loss page.