One of the keys to effective weight loss is to forgive yourself. Maybe you refuse to forgive yourself because you’re not where you want to be in your life at this exact moment in time. Or maybe you made a mistake or lots of mistakes and you can’t seem to get it right no matter how hard you try, and you find that your choices are taking you further from where you want to be. Or maybe you failed spectacularly and now you just want to go into your room and shut the door and not come out again.
But beating yourself up in any way is not going to help you lose the weight & keep it off. It isn’t going to help you grow either. The only thing that is going to help you is to forgive yourself.
For effective weight loss, forgive yourself as may times as it takes
You’re going to make mistakes. You’re human so it’s okay. You are not alone. In fact, you’re actually in excellent company with the rest of us who can’t get it right on the first try or the second or the tenth or ninety-eight for that matter. You need to forgive yourself for whatever you did or failed to do. For effective weight loss, you need to forgive yourself over and over. As many times as you screw up is how many times you need to forgive yourself.
You need to forgive yourself for effective weight loss & so you don’t get stuck
When you refuse to forgive yourself, it’s really easy to get stuck in a cycle:
- You refuse to forgive yourself then you
- feel bad about yourself then you
- abuse some substance or behavior (including food) to try to numb that feeling.
- Well, then that’s another mistake you made by abusing food to solve your problem, then you
- refuse to forgive yourself for doing that and you
- feel bad and you
- abuse something else.
And on it goes in a big circle that never ends until you end it. So, do yourself a kindness, and choose to end that cycle right now by forgiving yourself.
You don’t need anyone else’s permission to forgive yourself
You might be waiting around for someone else to forgive you for what you did or didn’t do. Or maybe you’re waiting for someone else to tell you it’s okay to forgive yourself. All that time you spend waiting is all that time you can never get back. The only permission you ever need to forgive yourself is your own. Now the question is: will you?
For effective weight loss, give yourself unlimited tries
It doesn’t matter how much you screw up. It doesn’t even matter how colossal a mistake it was. The only thing that matters when you do something or fail to do something is that you learn what you can, come at it from a wiser perspective the next time, and try again.
You have to be the one to give yourself permission to screw up as many times as it takes to get it right because the only other alternative is to quit. And if you quit, you do two things:
- you give up on yourself and
- you’ll never get to where you want to be.
Just keep this in mind: The only person limiting the number of tries you get is you.
The only way you’re going to find peace is to forgive yourself
When you refuse to forgive yourself, you’ve got an internal war going on. You’re never going to find any kind of peace (or effective weight loss, for that matter) while you’re battling yourself. The only thing that not forgiving yourself is going to do is make you feel unsettled or like it’s hard to be in your own skin.
Honestly, do yourself a kindness and don’t spend your time that way. Forgiving yourself is a choice and it doesn’t have to be long and drawn out. You just forgive yourself right away and you move on, that’s it. That’s all you have to do to find both effective weight loss and inner peace.
My weight-loss journey & how it can help you forgive yourself
I got free. Your life can be that way too.
I made my own path because I needed to get myself out of the crazy-making behavior I was having around food. I needed no restrictions, no weighing and measuring food, no off-limit foods, no more judgment around food, no more judging my self-worth based on the scale, no more you’re-not-doing-it-perfectly diet rules that were only fueling my constant thinking about and obsession with food. I needed to modify and change any weight-loss technique I found useful to suit my own personal needs.
- I lost 160+ pounds naturally & have kept it off for 8 years and counting.
- I no longer have any eating disorders.
- I no longer have a fear of food.
Just imagine what you could be doing with your life, following your own dreams and reaching your own goals, cultivating your own passions, making both your inner and outer worlds a more blissful and peaceful place, if you weren’t running in circles on the diet-go-round.
I got that for my life. I want it for yours. My books will show you how.
Let 2020 be the year you make peace with your body and with food.
For more information, check out the Start Where You Are Weight Loss page.